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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a weird post.  It's as if this 18 year old will be placed in a dream house with all sleek new appliances, but will lack the training to use them -- darn that school!  She won't know how to use her beautiful Le Creuset cookware!

OP, these kids will be living in a dump and eating Ramen Noodles or Burger King.[/quote]

I assume that they will get an apartment.  Probably a dump like you said.  But the apartment will have a kitchen.  Where they can store normal pots and pans that they will receive as wedding gifts.  I don't think she knows about Le Creuset.  I would assume some nights they would cook dinner.  Or at least she will try to prepare a meal for the 2 of them.[/quote]

Why would she prepare a meal and not him?  OP, seriously, this is coming off as really weird.  Sure, you can get her to start doing some cooking around your house for the next few months or whatever, but you seem to be missing a huge, huge thing here.  This is not the 1950's.  They can get by with just microwaved food if necessary -- I honestly don't know any 19-22 year olds who sit down for cooked meals together.  Cooking is not going to be even the top 10 of their concerns for the next few years.  What are her job prospects?  How will she fund her education?  What steps will she take, if any, to prevent pregnancy?  How strong is their relationship?  Have they done premarital counseling?  Do they expect financial support from their parents?

Cooking and button sewing -- seriously, not even in the top 20 concerns I'd have.  Probably not top 50.[/quote]

You ask a lot of great questions.  The answers I have are not great.

What are her job prospects?  She can get a job.  Her career prospects are going to be limited.

How will she fund her education?  She has no interest in going to college at this point.  She is currently living with us and as a stipulation she had to attend CC.  She is not doing well academically and does not want to work to improve her school work.  Yes, she has a documented LD from HS and she gets accommodations in college.

What steps will she take, if any, to prevent pregnancy?  She is on the pill but they've been talking about kids.

How strong is their relationship?  IMO, not strong enough to weather a marriage.  Marriage is hard and requires a lot of negotiation and compromise.  Like kids, I don't think you can ever have a true understanding of what it means until you are actually in it.

Have they done premarital counseling?  No

Do they expect financial support from their parents?  They haven't asked for it (yet).  We have explained how much life costs and that they will be financially responsible for themselves.  I don't know if her bio mom or his parents are willing to help them or if they have asked them for assistance.[/quote]

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