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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't set boundaries because I don't know how to do it while remaining polite.[/quote]

I can tell you, from years of daily practice with my zero-boundaries in-laws.

First, be mindful of what your boundaries are and accept that you have a right to have boundaries. How others feel about your boundaries is their problem to resolve, not yours.

Any time someone is pushing you against your feelings or your objections, or you feel strangely uncomfortable in a situation, that's a red flag and you should look at how boundaries are being stepped on.

To be polite, your standard response, when someone tries to push something on you, is a smile and a pleasant, "No." Or "Sorry, but I can't." Or "Sorry, but that doesn't work for us." No explanations, ever. Don't make excuses. Keep smiling and calm. No matter how much they badger you, or try and guilt you, or try and make you feel unreasonable, keep your calm and simply repeat the above. Always remember it's their problem, not yours, if they don't like your boundary and your answer.

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