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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH here.  I traveled a lot when my DD was 2-8; by traveled a lot, I mean I was more than 5000 miles away about 1 week per month.  I was mostly in spots that most people considered tourist destinations:  Hawaii & Vienna (Austria).  My wife resented it, and when I was home, expected me to be 100% n with the kid (which I did, gladly).

First, let me tell you what my days were like.
In Hawaii:  
4 AM wakeup (jet lag).  
4-6 AM: Do work for the company -- emails, address buring issues
6-6:30: Breakfast
6:30-7:30 commute (Hawaii traffic is bad, and there are no hotels near my customer)
7:30-6:00 Work at the customer site, various activities
6:00-6:30 Dinner near customer site
6:30-7:30 Commute back to hotel
7:30-8:00 Check Corp Email, address any fires
8:00         Crash (note that Hawaii is 6 hours behind us, so 8 PM is like 2 AM ET)

That is not a relaxing trip.

When I was home, I would go to work before anyone else got up, but be home around 5:00 PM; I was responsible for Dinner and the child untill her bedtime (about 8:00 at first, 9:00 later).

Also note that I planned my trips around softball schedules -- I was her softball coach, and over 7 seasons, missed one or two games.  I would often go from the end of season game/party to the airport; suitcase in my car.

Also, my wife was jealous  of my travels; so when DD was 5, I took the family with me on one of these trips.  I had to explain that I was working;  after the trip she commented that I was gone more there than I was when working at home.
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+1. Former sahm but now full time working DW here. I recently took two, 2-week business trips to Asia. Very little free time, exhausting travel (economy class to Asia...Blech), dinner with colleagues and clients at night that was all forced smiles listening to "war" stories, etc. Then come back and utter exhaustion but you have to be on for the kids.

OP, you are displacing your annoyance. As a former career woman turned sahm for 5 years turned back to career woman, I urge you to rethink the sahm bit. I think that is at the core of your frustrations. You may not realize it or want to admit it...but that's my guess.

In the meantime, each parent gets time away to connect with friends and have fun.[/quote]

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