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[quote=Anonymous]I feel your pain, OP. Once my DH and I were engaged, my MIL began to completely bypass DH and would only call me to make plans, stay in touch, etc. I put up with it reluctantly at first because I wanted her to like me.  However, shortly after we were married, she flat out told me that the burden of staying in touch with DH's family, remembering their birthdays, anniversaries, sending cards, etc. falls on ME and that in their family, the women handle it because "you know how men are."  This was said after I was asked why we aren't calling DH's grandpa more often.  I told her that DH is a grown man and that I was not going to nag him to call or make plans with his family - and that I was never going to commit to any plans, vacations, etc. without his input.  It has taken YEARS but she now communicates directly with DH and completely bypasses me for that stuff.  I do occasionally remind DH to call on birthdays, and I'm always the one who buys cards to send (although he usually signs them).  I let him manage his family, and I manage mine.  [/quote]

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