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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I weren't able to have kids.  (We tried everything and then some.)  At work, and in our circle of friends, the women with kids really have a sort of lovely community of sorts.  How do women like this see women without kids?  [/quote]

Woman with children here. I haven't read the other replies.

I work in a smallish office, where people are very friendly and I feel like part of a community. I think a majority of us (male and female) have kids, but there are several child-free people (again, both male and female). Also, in my book discussion group (all women), most of the women have children but there are two who do not. And in my neighborhood, we have lovely neighbors, some who have children and others who don't.

How do I see women without kids? I usually don't think about it at all. If I do think about it, it is in the following ways:

(1) I might wonder if "Mary" wanted children and couldn't have them or if she is childfree by choice, but that is just very occasional idle musing and not something I wonder about much. I have never asked anyone at work, bookclub, neighborhood why they don't have children, and can't think of a circumstance in which I would ask (although I am close enough to some women without children that it wouldn't shock me if they brought this up to me).

(2) I occasionally think while viewing the vacation pics of a childfree friend on Facebook, "wow, when you don't have kids, you can really enjoy your vacation!" Or some other cool thing they do that would be difficult for me to do because I have children. And I simultaneously think, "good for them!" and "damn, wish I could do that." LOL.

(3) I occasionally wonder if a childfree friend is growing tired of a conversation about children at bookclub or in the kitchen at work, and will try to steer the conversation in another direction if it is going on too long and they aren't participating in it. (If, OTOH, the childfree person is actively engaged in the conversation about children, then I assume they are actually interested in the discussion.)

So, that's what I think, nothing more than that. I'm not sure if that answers your question.[/quote]

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