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[quote=Anonymous]First, you didn't do anything to cause this.

You need to go to counseling on your own first. Rule out any lingering ppd. Deal with the reality of any possible condition and what that means. Look at this from your husband's perspective - he recently found out his child will likely never lead the life he envisioned and now, all of a sudden, he has the added responsibility of taking care of the child's extra needs AND you - he no longer has the child he envisioned, he also doesn't have the partner he thought he did. If you are wallowing, inconsolable, non-functioning, and lashing out at him - plus YOU are the one wanting a week break from everything, how do you think that makes him feel?  Overburdened, unappreciated to start.

My wife had a hard time during our child's diagnosis. Some of it was ppd, part denial. It was difficult, I considered divorce but hung around because divorce would not have solved everything, and I was not convinced she could handle any custody on her own well - it would not have been in the best interest of the child.

Things have gotten better with medication and counseling, mostly she goes on her own, occasionally I join her.  It is hard, it sucks, it isn't fair, but don't make it about you and your reaction. Keep the focus on your daughter. Nothing in the special needs community is cheap, quick, or easy. Divorce will make everything harder - finances, logistics, consistent approaches, environment. [/quote]

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