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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't send your two kids to different schools. That will be their predominate memory - that they were so different from each other, they couldn't even go to the same school.

Don't do this to kids[/quote]

That's ridiculous!  My kids go to different schools (one for AAP, the other not).  They do not harbor any resentment -- unless you count the fact that the AAP kid resents that he has more work than the non-AAP kid.  [/quote]

Not the PP, but I think that's wishful thinking on your part.  Have you ever seriously wondered what your non-AAP child thinks (not says) about the fact that his sibling gets to go to a different school, but s/he does not?[/quote]

My non AAP kid talks about it all the time with me. The younger sibking is happy to be at the base school. Kid loves math and is in the same advanced math program as the center sibling was in, and on the same middle school math trajectory. Kid hates writing and is happy not to be at the center where they write more and do caesars English. Kid likes being at the base school with most of the kids friends. A couple of close friends went to center and kid still does activities with them. The non AAP happy to talk about the center and make suggestions to the AAP friends of activities that older sibling really enjoyed.

My non AAP kid is not jealous in the least of older AAP sibling or AAP friends. In fact, when I asked if kid wanted to try to apply for the center next year, kid thought about it for a minute and gave a firm no, for all the reasons mentioned above.  There is one activity that makes kid want the center a little but not enough to make the kid jealous or want to switch schools.

[b]I think if I were a parent like you who was obsessed with and insanely jealous of AAP then perhaps the non AAP kid would feel bad about school or be jealous as well. [/b]But with most normal parents who value their kids as individuals with different needs, and who don't obsess about who is or is not in AAP, their kids will not really care beyond  perhaps an initial disappointment at not seeing friends at school daily.[/quote]

Oh, ok.  I see you don't have two kids (one AAP and one Gen Ed) who [b]both[/b] attend a center as their base school.  Perhaps if you did, your Gen Ed child's experience would be vastly different from what you describe above.  When GE kids have to attend centers, they see many of their friends from K-2 moving into AAP - but not them.  They come home crying and upset, not understanding why they aren't in class with their best friends anymore (who, remember, still attend the same school), and why there are so many kids in the AAP classes but so few in General Ed, with them.

So you see, since your non-AAP kid obviously doesn't have to attend a center (and is fortunate not to have to), they have no reason to feel bad about themselves.  Those kids who DO have centers as their base schools, see this dynamic every single day, and guess what?  It's no fun at all to be in their shoes.  If it makes you feel better to label parents who don't like center schools as "obsessed and insanely jealous (???)," then knock yourself out.  I'm sure it's easier to insult parents who have actual concerns than to really try putting yourself in their shoes for a moment and imagining how your non-AAP kid might feel if s/he had to go to a school in which s/he felt inferior every single day.  [/quote]

If you read OPs post, I have two kids where one attends the base school and one attends a center which is EXACTLY what OP is asking about.

She didn't ask about your situation, an only child attending a center school where her best friend is in AAP and she is not.

OPs question is about sibling. In different schools. Not onlies in a center school gen ed program. Not even siblings attending the same center school where one is AAP and onenis not.  Different schools. Different programs.  Not a bigs deal. It is all in how that parent approaches things.[/quote]

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