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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Grandparents: for the most part, we love and appreciate them. However, it's probably fair to say most of us have received unsolicited parenting advice. So maybe here in this little corner of the Internet, we can fantasize about giving unsolicited Grandparenting advice.

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Grandparents, take note: if a parent is within eyesight/earshot of the child, and is actively parenting them, you don't need to pile on with the instructions and corrections. I don't need my FIL barking "put that down!" When I have JUST said it. Kids don't need three adults telling them the same thing at the same time.
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See, this is why American family structure is just a total failure. The grandparent in this case is barking, "put that down!" because he is saying, "And I am even more important than you mother, who just told you to" but to the mother, the grandparent isn't even part of the family anymore.[/quote]

Of course grandparents are a very important part of the family! But they are NOT more important than the parents. Grandparents have a special role to play: guide to parents (when asked), admirer/love-giver/cheerleader/special friend of grandchildren, "behavior corrector" of children *WHEN NEEDED* (if the parents are away or don't see, or if enforcing a rule in the grandparents' own house), etc. But they need to play THAT ROLE, not the role of parents. Grandparents are not more important than the mother or father; don't get it twisted.[/quote]

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