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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Or maybe that was the only weekend that worked for them given their schedules and they don't think birthdays are a big deal for anyone over the age of ten.

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Or maybe they do think birthdays are a big deal and didn't invite you because they assumed you wouldn't want to come due to DS's birthday.

Only you know the relationship well enough to know if it's worth bringing up.  But one thing I will point out is that this is about your feelings as much as your kid.  If only your kid were upset, you could bring it up with the parents and explain...but you are feeling excluded as well, so recognize that you'll need to bring that up as well in whatever conversation you have.  Honestly, if you're truly hurt, it might be worth bringing up.  I'm terrible about doing that sort of thing, and a result has been having a lot of friendships sort of fade away.  Maybe right now you're more invested in these relationships than the other participants are; it's okay for that imbalance to exist.  Addressing it might make things feel more on even keel, or confirm that your instincts of feeling excluded are right and make it easier to cleanly move on.  Limbo is a terrible feeling in any relationship; it's the worst in a friendship since it can last for a really long time.[/quote]

OP again. This is all very well put.  I am still on the fence whether to say something or not.  But what can I say? "I guess we like you guys more than you like us"?  IAnd I certainly don't want to lose the friendship over this, but, as you say, it's better to move forward with a clearer knowledge of where we stand.[/quote]

I'd go with something like we're really going to miss you guys this year.  Maybe we haven't always acknowledged it enough, but this tradition we've built of celebrating with our families is special to us and I hope we can keep it going.  We know how tough it is to coordinate schedules and plan a getaway though!  Hopefully next year we can coordinate better.  (Or maybe we can get the kids together for a small celebration when everyone's in town?)

If they respond apologetically, then maybe it was just an omission and you don't need to create drama by confronting them more directly.  If their response is chilly, well then you're probably right about the distance and should quietly move on.[/quote]

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