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[quote=Anonymous]You are self-admittedly not the best candidate to care for your children.  Due to personal issues, you have struggled to provide a stable environment for one child and you want her to designate you the guardian for three children?  If you struggle with work-life issues for your one child, how will your situation improve by adding two more dependent children to the mix?  If is as much love for you as love for her children that she chose someone else.  Additionally, you feel that her best friend does not approve of you and does not like you, and may try to keep your niece and nephew from seeing you.  I think the friend's disapproval is probably entirely based on your instability; you are not a stable influence on your niece and nephew.

So, my advice?  Take this as a wake-up call to try and get your own life in order.  Look for a way to improve your work-life balance.  Talk with your employer about trying to change jobs or decrease your responsibilities to allow you to get back some of that work-life balance.  If you can't do that, then perhaps looking for a job that has a better work-life balance is in order.  You know the issues, so either you can just accept that your personal work issues decrease your ability to parent effectively and that it affects how others view you, or you can look for solutions that will eliminate the primary cause of your lack of balance and will give you better balance to become a more stable parental influence on your child and your niece and nephew.  My guess is that if you can improve your balance and provide more time for your child, your niece and nephew then your sister and her friend will recognize it.  If you become a parent with more time for your family, you may find that your sister's best friend would not be so disapproving and would be more accepting of you.[/quote]

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