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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - I hate to tell you this but it's only going to get worse.  I've not been "home" in two decades because my parents are embarrassed to have me come in the house.  My mother mails me oddball ancient things that have to go right in the trash.  Unfortunately, it is a very difficult condition to change; most hoarders and enablers are resistant to help.  My brother and I are right now trying to decide if it is time to call in on the County's hoarding hotline because our attempts to help have failed.  My parents are in their 80s and we live in fear that they are going to fall or catch the house on fire, but they will not let us near the house to help.[/quote]

P[b]P, another PP here, it might help to call the county and ask what would happen if you made a formal report, so you can think about it with the details in hand. I didn't end up needing to make that call, but I was glad to have that information in my back pocket.[/quote][/b]

Thanks, I already did.  In this particular County, you first call the hoarding hotline.  Normally they send out a social services agent who knocks on the door and asks permission to enter. The occupant can turn them away (which would be the case with parents).  The agency then turns it over to the police and they then make a "welfare check" and may enter the premises.  At that time, after the police have observed, they reassign it back to the social services agency to set up regular meetings by a worker (like you've seen on Hoarders) who makes as many visits as necessary.  However, upon hearing the details on my particular case, the hoarding hotline told me to call the police directly and ask for a "welfare check".  I am out of state.  They prefer that an in-state person make the call, so it would fall upon my brother to make that call.  The police then have "exigent circumstances" to enter the dwelling and observe.  A subsequent call to the County by Brother told us that the police would disclose who made the complaint call, which is sort of beyond the point now.  But the neighbors have expressed conceen and wondered, too, if they should call.  However, once Brother makes that call, the family will be destroyed.  Very very tough call:  Parents falling, getting hurt, dying in fire vs. making that single phone call.[/quote]

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