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[quote=Anonymous]I had a baby with my ex - we split (his call) while I was pregnant.  Initially, we used the Virginia state child-support calculator to determine what he should pay, given the health insurance costs (which I pay) and daycare costs (which I pay), and the fact that I have her 5 days a week to his 2.

I keep track of all kid-related expenses (other than entertainment and snacks, which I think are discretionary) and every year we look at the total vs. last year to determine if his support should go up or down for the next year.  (we don't want to go back to court and our incomes are still similar.)  You may want to do something similar.

I would never expect him to pay for any of *my* expenses, because I'm an adult and not his dependent. The fact that I chose to buy a bigger house when she came along is my responsibility, not his.

That said, he's deployed for over half of this year, so he's giving me more money than usual for babysitting and to cover the fact that having a child 7 days a week costs more than having one 5 days.  (food, etc.)  You probably need to get a job again, at least until the dust settles - running two households is pricey.[/quote]

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