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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When your own health and well-being is being compromised (physically, emotionally, mentally).

[b]There is nothing wrong with divorcing a mentally ill spouse[/b]. Maybe they have less control over their behavior, but the effects can be just as detrimental. [/quote]

Of course there is something wrong with divorcing a mentally ill spouse.  Unless you have marriage vows that said, "In sickness and in health, unless your sickness is mental and makes my life pretty awful..." there is a LOT wrong with dumping a spouse just because of mental illness.

You have depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder and still not be abusive, either verbally or physically. THey are not symptoms of those diseases.  If someone has become abusive, that's an issue beyond the illness.  [/quote]

I think you're being disingenuous. Proactively working on mental health issues, is different than not.

And those vows are antiqued.  We may still utter them today, but in their origin, mental health issues were ignored.

I think it's abusive to bully someone into staying in a marriage in which their own health is being regularly or permanently compromised, by saying "hey you took this vow!" [/quote]

I didn't say that.  I said there is something wrong with divorcing a mentally ill spouse...for being mentally ill.  Abandoning an ill spouse because of an illness is wrong.  At least in my book, according to my sense of morality.  Choosing to leave a spouse who is abusive is a different story.   That person has already violated the vows to love and cherish you.  You are no longer safe.  But just for illness?  No.

And if vows are [i]antiqued,[/i] as you say, people shouldn't say them.  Personally, I don't think loyalty to a spouse in sickness and in health has gone out of style.

Please note that I was responding here to your claim that there's nothing wrong with divorcing a spouse because of mental illness.  As I said in my original response, abuse is a separate issue from mental illness. Mental illness doesn't cause abuse and is not an excuse for it.[/quote]

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