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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So based on one anecdotal experience, she's making a sweeping generalization that all men behave this way when rejected?

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Agree that whoever the author was, making a sweeping generalization about all men based on the way one man--and a geek at that--behaved is not exactly fair or appropriate.

Back to the original question--the reply about the boyfriend was appropriate.  Immediately blocking him on FB and Twitter before he had a chance to respond was overboard and what set him off.  Not saying he wasn't a nutjob that required that, but she could have at least waited to see if he backed of and toned down before blocking him.   Then, it he continued to make her uncomfortable, she could have blocked him.  
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Why is it over the top to block him? I can block anyone I want for any reason. If I don't like the shirt you are wearing, I can block you. But now we have to defend our right to block someone. And if we block someone for the 'wrong' reason, he has the right to go all ape shit crazy--and it's the woman's fault? [/quote]

No, you don't have to defend your right to block him.  You can do anything you want, but be cognizant of the message you send.  The two messages: a polite message that says "Thanks, but no thanks." and blocking seemed incongruous.  If his messages were making her uncomfortable, she could have just said so, then blocked the guy.  Or she could have given the polite "Thanks, but I already have a boyfriend" and leave it at that to see what he does next.  The combination of the polite message that didn't suggest he gave off warning flags and then blocking him was what the immature guy responded to.  I acknowledged that the geeky was possibly a nutjob, which he clearly displayed in his next few responses.  But at the time she responded to him, she didn't know he was going to have the Internet meltdown.  She did not deserve what happened, but I was trying to show how the mixed messages may have triggered the immature and innappropriate response.  Not that she caused it, but what he reacted to.  He's responsible for his inappropriate reaction, not her, but if you want to avoid situations, sometimes the best thing to do is be more direct and tell him that his prior messages were creepy before blocking him.[/quote]

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