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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you really need to make dating a part time job, as a PP mentioned. Above all else. You can still have marriage and a family. I agree with therapy and online dating and more outings all at once. Seriously, make it your priority for the next two years. Be open to dating younger and older, guys who aren't so tall, non-professional men, etc. Ask your married girlfriends if their husbands have any friends. Lose weight if you need to! Find and read "Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others" by John Molloy.

I'm a single mom myself in my early 30s (32). My biggest deterrent has been work, not being a mom. Don't get me wrong, dating a single parent is a dealbreaker for some. But there are still plenty of guys who will. I've spent my 30s living abroad and won't be back home for good until next summer at age 33. In retrospect, its been great financially but pretty catastrophic to my dating life. I've met guys only to lose a connection due to distance many times over. For some guys, my being a mother has even been a plus as they'd like to have a family now. You'd be surprised how many men are mid-30s now and never imagined being single or have moms pressuring them for grandbabies.

I can't stress enough how important it is to get into great shape. Hell, some gyms have a higher ratio of single men to women anyway. Put some effort into your looks. You don't have to wear heels daily, but start a no-frump challenge. Hang out in areas where the type of guys you might be interested in would be. If someone says that they have a guy in mind for you, give it a try. Online dating is a no-brainer and a must, even if you've been unsuccessful at it in the past. Accept that rejection is part of the process, but you will get over it. Get out of the house. You should be out in the city getting into activities as much as possible. There are guys out here wondering where the hell women like you are.

You are single and childless and you need to take advantage of that! Many of my single mom friends are engaged, married, or in longterm relationships now. If they're meeting decent guys, you don't have any excuses. If you throw in the towel and spend your mid-30s sulking in resignation, you will probably regret it in your 40s.

Since you're willing to adopt, that should take some of the pressure off, as you can go that route in another 5 years or so. I wouldn't recommend going the single mom path at your age since marriage is your goal.[/quote]

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