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[quote=Anonymous]Just listen. Let them know you are available to listen or for whatever else they might want-- which could be distraction. They know what they need. They know how they feel. You don't. Show respect for their experience. Don't try to stretch it to be "just like that time..." something happened to you. OP, I'd strongly encourage you NOT to give them a frown-upside-down story of adoption success after failure. They are grieving for *this* child whom they will never have in their life or their family. This child and the family the would make together was real to them, and "we'll find another puppy" is not what they need to hear. The idea of holding out hope could be unbearably painful. They might need a break from the process, and might be too raw to let themselves be vulnerable again. Let them decide what they need. Hear them out. Resist the urge to fix it or minimize it. [/quote]
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