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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have sex every couple of weeks. You're his fuck buddy, nothing more.[/quote]

Since I'm sure you will protest this, let me add that I was in  your situation once. I genuinely enjoyed the man's company, we had fun together, we often had dinner before sex, but in the end it was just sex and just as needed.[/quote]

I wont protest this. The funny thing is that he was adament that he wanted something more meaningful when we first started and insisted that he did not want game playing.  So, my question is when can I bring up that the status quo isn't making me feel too fuzzy?  Is now too soon? Do I wait for a few more dates? (dates that i know will likely happen).[/quote]

Who is setting up the dates? Do you text him and ask? You may just see if you can increase the date frequency first. If you are seeing him more and becoming more of a regular fixture in his life, he will likely interact with you more just out the evolving nature of the relationship. My advice is to say nothing about "please text me so we can have random banter and you can make me feel fuzzy."[/quote]

He always initiates the dates. Yesterday was the first time I reached out to him and he wasn't free and apologized but didn't offer an alternative. He hasn't texted today. I am assuming i just let it be until i hear from him again, correct?[/quote]

Give it a couple days and see what he does. He knows you're interested.

I don't agree that you can't ever pursue a man like some of the other posters. If I hadn't pursued my now DH, he never would've even been my BF. We spent a year in an awkward half dating/half gay best friend scenario. He had a super bad temper and would get angry over trivial things, then feel too ashamed to text me the next day (turns out the girl he was with before gave him a severe mind-fuck and he was constantly rejected by her as some sort of sport). As soon as I would text him and just say something like "Hi, hope your day's going well" he would apologize. Over that awkward year he took care of the anger issues, got better at communication all around, and we eventually became a legitimate couple. To this day though, I still will text him first probably 25/30 days in the month. I asked him about it and he says he doesn't want to bother me or disrupt my day because he knows with my job I am constantly on the go and with people. His job is much less involved and he can text basically whenever he wants, so he just waits for me to have a break in my day. It used to annoy me, but I get it. It's just his way of trying to be courteous. [/quote]

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