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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ex-DH and I had a pretty civil divorce, in my opinion. We communicate regularly, he has full access to our DS.  However, for almost a year now his child support checks have been late by either a week or two and lately they started bouncing altogether. We talked, he keeps saying that his company is going through a rough patch, several clients have been late with their payments.  I get it, he has a business.  But I am not a wealthy person, so I've been pretty much shouldering all of our costs by myself.  The mortgage, the association fees, medical insurance, clothes, camps, extracurricular activities.  When DS computer died, I bought him a new one, even though ex-DH said "I'll pay half."  Never happened.  He promised to take DS on vacation to FL.  Never happened either.  I can't afford a real vacation this summer.  Last night I suggested to go back to our lawyers and financial manager so that we can figure out a payment plan.  Now I am getting bitchy phone calls from him and his family, calling me petty and cheap.  WWYD?[/quote]

If the checks are bouncing, he needs to pay you with cash or a cashier's check or a direct deposit. I wouldn't deal with bouncing checks.

On the other hand, I would be willing to split child support payments into weekly or twice monthly payments, if that was easier for ex-DH to pay.

I would refuse to talk to the EX-ILs. They can STFU and MYOB.

I would also consider dumping the house and getting something cheaper, if it was just me and one kid.  That would take some financial burden off you.  A condo might be perfect. [/quote]

OP here. We already live in a condo.  It's a 2-bdr condo in a nice neighborhood with good schools.  I would not be able to afford a house.  I am lucky I don't have student loans and DS doesn't go to a private school.   :) [/quote]

Then you don't have much to cut, except extracurriculars. I wouldn't cut extracurriculars until I had shaken as much child support out my ex as I could. Time to make an appointment with your lawyer. [/quote]

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