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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Really there is not gold medal for staying at summer camp. Its supposed to be fun. If it's not, why stay? Come home, try another camp.

It sends a message that the child can't handle anything without mom and dad. It sends a message you don't believe she can succeed in a social situation where maturity and adjustment is necessary. It sends a message that she was right to doubt whether she really belonged with her friends. That will not help her and will probably make her feel bad about herself when she sees those peers again outside of camp. Not helping at all.

There is no medal for staying but there is a reward she can win- learning to navigate a new situation and enjoying the activities once an adjustment begins.

Better now than her first week of college.[/quote]

I agree. It also sends the message that if you say you want to try something and mom and dad pay for you to try it, you're going to have to give it your best shot, and find a way to make it work out, absent some compelling circumstance.  I don't feel like it is my job to fix everything that is wrong in my kids' lives, they're getting old enough to start figuring some of it out and taking responsibility for their choices and happiness themselves.  It's two more weeks out of her life, it doesn't sound like an awful place, just a bad fit, and you say that she has good friends there.  She'll be fine.  Not every experience in life is going to be great, not every moment is going to be happy.  If nothing else, she'll learn some things about herself and why the place was a bad fit for her that may help her figure out what she would prefer to do instead in the future.  [/quote]

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