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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wait, how is this your brother in law, but your family (i.e., your father).  I'm not getting the dynamic.

I agree, it's early and a lot has to be sorted out - the kids are probably reeling.  But soon, and perhaps gradually, some lines are going to have to be drawn.   If they are coming to your house for dinner, after the next belch, excuse them from the table.

You need to strike a fine line of being welcoming, but firm.  So make alliances with the new wife, and gently let her know what is and isn't acceptable.  Reach out to the daughters and do one on one things.  Have whomever is closest to the BIL talk regularly to him.

The reason I ask how is the BIL related when it's your father is I wonder if the BIL has strong enough ties to the family.  Is he only participating because of his daughters?  If so, are there ways to suggest having daughters stay at family compound, without entire family needing to be there?  [/quote]

He is my husband's brother. It's my sides family home but extended family are welcome.

I think making an alliance with the new wife is a fantastic idea. We haven't had enough time to really become friends yet, but I think that might help. Thank you.

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