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[quote=Anonymous]So look I'm going to ignore the obvious issues with what you wrote, since others have addressed that.  Let's focus on what's up with you OP.  You're upset because your daughter has gotten pregnant with her boyfriend on purpose and before she's started working.  Is that right?  I think part of the work you need to do here is to deal with your own feelings of disappointment out of view of your daughter, her boyfriend and the child.  Those are on you.  If you have an open and loving relationship, I think it's ok to say, ONCE that you wished they'd gotten married and a bit more settled before having a child.  After that though, all you do is show support.  That means: acting loving and welcoming to the boyfriend, NOT mentioning you think he's using her for a green card,  acting excited and loving about the child, opening your home to them for visits, offering emotional support without judgement and helping your daughter learn how to become a parent.

If your worst fears are true, your daughter will need you.  And she'll need you to show her how to be an excellent parent even when your child doesn't turn out to be your Perfect Image of a child.  Love her through your actions.  Not through your judgement.

Good luck.[/quote]

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