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[quote=Anonymous]This is really a personal decision.  Some of the pp's offered good advice about the financial end of things but I have older kids -- here is some of what happened on the emotional end.

The first 10 years of building a career (in DH's case in finance) were difficult with long hours and weekend work.  On average, we did not see DH three nights a week during this time either because he was traveling or because he was home too late.  There is no doubt that my kids suffered, especially as they moved into elementary school and realized that dad wasn't there for dinner or often for bedtime.  One of our kids really did not adjust to this well at all.  It is true that this is time that DH won't get back.

After about 10 years things leveled off and now we have both the high income and the better hours.  That is really a nice place to be at age 50 since we have college and our retirement fully funded. At this point, we are much less stressed than many of our friends but in our 30's we were way more stressed.

Neither of us would have been happy with 40 hours a week jobs -- we are both risk takers.  That is the part that is so personal.  We are lucky that it turned out relatively well.

One last thing, I hired a sitter for many, many years.  It helped keep my sanity after I quit my job. I also developed a lot of non-work interests and volunteer in the community (not in my kids' schools).
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