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[quote=Anonymous][quote]So it's either demanding job with SAHM or 2 WOHP with steady jobs. Are there any SAHM happy with the hard driving breadwinner husband doing his best to provide for them or does the absence just cause too much resentment?[/quote]

Ding ding ding. This was my slow, but sudden realization when my fed. husband went back into biglaw and I jumped at the chance to be a SAHM (I was pregnant with our second). It was the wrong decision because it threw our whole relationship dynamic out of sync. I was lonely and felt like he didn't do enough and wasn't around enough. He was insanely stressed out. We went from being a dual fed to having what felt like a ton of money, but no time. I outsourced everything and began to feel completely useless and resentful. He was resentful because he was exhausted. We were literally at the brink of divorce but therapy led us to the conclusion that the choice we made was the first spark that was burning our marriage down. He went in house. I went back to work. And we found a balance. A lot of people can do the SAHM thing while the DH works crazy hours. I thought being home would be this amazing thing, but for me, it really put a huge wedge in my marriage and personal sanity. YMMV[/quote]

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