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[quote=Anonymous]DH is usually home by 6:00pm for dinner.  He has a somewhat flexible job- so he is able to go to IEP meetings and then go to work.  In crunch times, he will work late once a week.  He can do work from home.  His commute just changed for the better and he is now only 4 miles away.  Love it.

He has ebbed and flowed with travel.  He is in a flow right now and has average one trip a month to the west coast.

Having a woh/sah working partnership has been beneficial for our family because of some special circumstances.  For us, dual wohp was more natural and ran well and I would have preferred for that to continue.  I worked a 40 hour job that was rare for travel and overtime.  DH's job has become more flexible as time passes.   However, we make do with what choices and options we had available.

My suggestion is that you save your entire post tax salary plus 10% of your DH's for at least six months before you quit.   That way you can see if you are able to do it financially and you will have a nice nest egg.  You should also be able to contribute to both your retirements and children's college funds- otherwise it may not be financially feasible- unless something more important is driving a partner's staying at home.   There is a learning curve to SAH, at least there was one for me.  It took years to get into the cadence- which is different.

Why this works for DH and I:
We are naturally frugal people.
We saved my post tax salary from the moment I moved in when we were engaged, so we were used to the budget.
We have been able to keep up with retirement and college savings.  
We treat each other as equal partners and money is "ours", not yours/mine- we make money decisions together.
We are partners in raising our children.
We make sure our relationship stays current and go on dates.
We work together.  Everyone pitches in- laundry, cleaning, yard care.
We have an every other week house cleaner.
We both think that the other has the worse deal (most days). 
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