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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]This financial burden is for you and the children's father to bear alone. [/b] If you both agree the children need to go to private school, the cost should be split in proportion to the support you each provide. If you do not feel you can afford that portion AND contribute the same way to the bills with your new husband, then you cannot afford it.

Yes he knew you had kids when you met, but adding a new financial burden on him, because of a decision you and the father of your children made is simply not right.  He may agree now but will resent it later.

Also this should have been discussed with your husband BEFORE you applied to the private schools.  These are not his children and he is not financially responsible for them.  His quality of life should not change for a decision he has no control over.  [/quote]

I'm not the OP. I am, however, divorced and remarried, with a child from my first marriage. Her dad and I have discussed private school down the road. Right now we are fine with public.

Regarding the statement that I bolded, I am not really sure how this would be accomplished - in my family or any other family where married couples share the same bank account. I do not know how to insulate my husband from my daughter's hypothetical private school tuition, since my paychecks and his paychecks go into the same account, which we then use to pay the expenses of our family, including school expenses.

It's a moot point, frankly. My husband would never in a million years say "This is not my child and I'm not financially responsible for her" because he is not an asshole.[/quote]

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