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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks folks for your replies.  I know my husband will support me sending kids to private school, [b]but know it will also be a financial strain and don't want us to feel resentment downstream[/b]..... I also feel guilty as I went to public school, myself, and feel guilty leaving the system for private...[/quote]

I'm a woman, and if I had to eat ramen because my stepchild is being sent to a private school, when there's a perfectly viable public school alternative, I would 100% resent this.  Maybe not in the beginning, but eventually.

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New poster - I 100% would resent it and it would become a huge issue. I am also a teacher who has taught in both public and private schools - depending on what special needs your children have, often public have more resources for them.  [/quote]

Stepchild here. You all suck. You married your spouses and as a result you should act like parents. Disagree that your household can support private tuition, thats cool. Disagree that private schools are worth the money, fine. But all children in the house should be treated equally by both parents, step or bio. I have no respect for anyone who takes on stepchildren without this mindset because its unbelievably damaging. My stepfather treated me just like his own kid from day one, financially and emotionally and it made him a dad instead of my mom's husband.

FWIW I also think that if you want to send one set of kids to private school with money from the bio parents, you (the bio+step) should figure out a way to do it for any bio kids you have of your OWN. Things should be equal among siblings, they didn't choose to be stuck in this merry go round of finance fights that you adults stepped into. Love children equally, treat children equally, don't be a dick.[/quote]

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