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[quote=Anonymous]I have a couple friends who are "choice moms." OP, this term is not a slight on your decisions or your parenting. It's not intended to imply that you're some kind of fallen failure of a woman and that they're better than you are.

Women who proactively choose to get pregnant without a partner face logistical issues that are relatively unique to their situation. Getting pregnant is often a process that is expensive and time consuming. I suppose that they could find common cause with partnered women experiencing infertility since the mechanics may be the same in some cases, but it's still different.

Additionally, the term is an identifier for other moms in the same position. The choice moms that I know are very intentional about creating a community for their children and whether you find it insulting or not, they likely shoulder more responsibility than even a divorced woman with an absentee ex. Most divorce women I know receive some kind of support from the father of their child, whether that's in terms of shared custody or financial support. They also have obligations associated with the other parent that choice moms don't have, and sometimes that can have complications (getting a passport, for example, requires both parents and if both parents aren't there, an explanation needs to be provided).

It's really not about you and I think it's kind of weird that you're this upset about it.[/quote]

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