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[quote=Anonymous]I have no kids but have a husband who works a ton so I get it.

He travels a ton so accrues a lot of points and miles.

Used to be I'd go to a ton of effort to plan trips but he'd often cancel at the last minute leaving me sitting at home alone and bummed.

Now my policy is, if we plan this trip, I am going on this trip, using your points and miles. You can come or not come. If you cancel, I am still going. I am not sitting at home alone while you work.

Anyway, more direct to op. If this happens all the time and you guys never get to go on vacation, you need to go on vacation without him. Have a discussion about that. For this wknd, travel on the fourth last minute is likely to be a pain anyway so I might just let that go IF you pin him down on specific fun staycation plans and he agrees to them.

So how many hours is he saying he is going to work? Schedule for those. Then say, here are some fun plans. Sunday from one to four I want to go to mt vernon. Friday we want to go to the building museum and then a movie. Are you in for those? If not, when and what can you do? If you are not willing to commit to plans, we a re doing something out of town without you.

I come from a family with a lot of workaholic men. The trend is that the women often vacation on their own (with friends while the kids are in camp) and with the kids. Or the women go to the beach for a few weeks and the men fly in for a few days a couple times. That kind of thing.

Workaholic dad who will not vacation much should NOT equal family stays at home.

Also....a lot of times my husband and I go on vacation and he spends part of the day working remotely. Can your husband not work remotely?[/quote]

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