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The key is that you don't need to like her, OP. You just need to be polite and include her when you can.

That's it. You cannot expect to love every sister-in-law/brother-in-law, or stepmother/father, or boyfriend/girlfriend of your family members, or EVEN your own daughter or son-in-law!

And with time, you might see the positive, genuine side of her and grow to love her. Much can happen to 50 years.

Take it slowly.
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Wow! Thank you for this advice. I want to hear more from you. [b]I want everyone to like me and I expect to like everyone in my circle[/b]. Outside of work, I'm not accustomed to being around people I don't care for. I'm trying to force myself to like her overnight. Perhaps, this can only truly come with time. [/quote]

Well, now, this is a bit silly, isn't it? That may be the rule in kindergarten, where you have to invite the whole class to your birthday party, but real life is not like that. Of course there will be people you don't like and -- guess what -- people who don't particularly care for you.

But I don't think that's what's going on here. To be fair, you are not giving SIL -- in her new form -- a chance. You have already decided you don't like her. And as you have noticed, that is stressful and consumes so much energy.

Your family vacation outreach idea is a good one. Just relax, go and have fun. You will surprise yourself, I'm betting.[/quote]

Thanks. Probably silly. But everyone in my circle (outside of a few co workers) I genuinely really like. I know that SIL is different and even said she's pretty much being the SIL I always wanted but I almost feel like I'm treating her like " a little too late" and I know it's wrong. I've dealt with SIL for several years how she was. The way she is now, is so much better. I know it's not right to hold it against her. And just to be clear. The things I'm referring to are all personality based. Nothing to do with drugs, prostitution, etc as implied earlier above. [/quote]

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