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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yup. Done this repeatedly with racist and homophobic family members. Yes, you are free to have your hateful opinion. And I am free to not associate with such people.

I explain to my children (and my DH agrees) that when we do not call people out for this sort of thing, we are condoning it and allowing it to continue to grow and hurt people. We are complicit. And you folks who are like "grandma's nice but racist" are complicit. You are feeding this fire of hate. Ugly but true.[/quote]

And I'm free to say how sad I think this militant stance is for your kids.[/quote]

I don't see what's "militant" about this stance.  When your kids turn out to spout racist/homophobe beliefs, don't scratch your head as to where they got it from of you're the type to just ignore it because you want free babysitting and baked goods from your extended family.[/quote]

My question to you is:  How is this stance different than being racist or homophobic?  I come from an extremely conservative religious family, and they are quick to cut out people who don't follow their beliefs.  If I cut them out, aren't I doing the same?  Honestly, this is a struggle for me.  But I want to communicate to my children that I love them unconditionally.  How do they learn that from me if I'm cutting off my family because I don't agree with them?  My actions speak louder than words.  We do discuss the issues together, my kids and I, about why things are strained.  Tolerance goes both ways though.[/quote]

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