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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Opposite situation here. I left and I am the sick person. Our relationship was pretty bad. Then I got sick and it got worse. I think it's possible my illness caused us both to change. I was more dependent. He was more angry. We were both frustrated at the futility of what was happening. He wanted me to do more, try more, when I was realizing how little control I had over it and needed to learn acceptance. And really needed help and care and loving support.

So I guess what I'm saying is having a major health problem can cause problems in a relationship. Everyone says "in sickness and in health" but most people see that as tottering around together in their seventies, not having to help someone in their thirties walk to the bathroom.

Also, it changes you, the sick person, in huge ways. It's a paradigm shift like becoming a parent. So when your personality and your outlook changes to such an extent, it's not surprising that your relationships will change too. [/quote]

This is me.  I keep wondering why I am staying in a crappy marriage; why I should live out my last couple years like this.  He is very devoted and says that he wants to take care of me.  I don't love him and find him very difficult to have around.  What to do?[/quote]

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