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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I actually think that shorter gaps are easier[/b], though it all depends on your outlook. Personally I like having kids with similar needs/stages etc. [b]We had our three very close together[/b] on purpose and love it. Don't read about other families experiences ~ They mean nothing to you. You are over thinking it. People have been having multi children families since the dawn of time. You can too, if and when you are ready. You will know when you are ready because you will long for another baby. It really is just that simple. Good luck[/quote]

So how do you know exactly that spacing them close together is easier if you've never experienced a larger gap?

People have had multi-children families in very different circumstances than many of us have them today - often with ample extended family support and often with one parent full-time at home.  And let's be honest, women didn't have birth control.  There weren't a lot of options other than multi-children families for many women for a long time.  I have 3 too, but it rubs me the wrong way to imply that everyone can just do it and figure it out and it's all super easy and people are overthinking things.  I couldn't disagree more.  I can't think of a decision to think about more than whether or not to bring another human being into the world and your family and your marriage.

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Most of us are the children of parents who had access to birth control, don't you think? At least those who are having kids now? I was born in 1980, my sister in 1982, and you can be sure my mom was on birth control for the 11 years she was married before she got pregnant. She did not want kids at all for the first decade of her marriage. My cousins who were born in the late 60s and early 70s also were in two and three-kid families. I doubt that was by accident. Birth control was available.[/quote]

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