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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]22:01 here. You need a like-minded circle of friends, OP.

I tend to be on the harsh side. I forced DS to finish his plate as a toddler because he had failure to thrive and was seeing oral-motor therapists - ie, there was an excellent reason to insist on feeding him. But I would NEVER discipline someone else's child.

The simple truth is that you're never going to be comfortable with these people (who may be of the same background and culture?) if their parenting is so different from yours. Seriously, take the time to choose new friends.
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OP here. Prior to having children, I was very aggressive and ambitious. My friends from prior to having children have similar personalities. They are perfectionists and want their children to be well behaved and perfect. By doing this, I don't think the parents and children seem very happy.

I am now a SAHM. I used to stress about my children's eating. I pick my battles with my children. They eat lots of fruit and veggies. They also eat ice cream almost every night after dinner. They cannot eat ice cream until they eat a decent amount of dinner. Our house is always kind of messy except for the few hours after the cleaning lady finishes cleaning. We are ok with this. I spend a lot of time reading and trying to enrich my kids. Often that includes messes that we don't always clean up right away.[/quote]

PP you're responding to.

People on this board complain all the time about how hard it is to make friends. Knowing it might take time, just go out there and do it anyway! I moved here from abroad and took many years to find a small circle of excellent friends. Our only thing in common is our parenting and general philosophy of life - not nationality, age or occupation. That way there is perfect frankness when we talk about parenting strategies and education, etc. I feel I can ask for advice and get something that will truly match what I want for my children. And vice-versa. The rest of the conversation is fascinating, since we can relate our different experiences of life.

On a side note, you seem insecure. There is no need to justify your lifestyle. You only have one life to live, so do what you think is best.
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OP here. I do not think I am insecure. I feel like a fish out of water. I am new to being a SAHM and can't seem to find my place. I may be holding on to old friendships. I thought we could continue being friends even if our parenting styles were different. [/quote]

I know, I know - after a while, I dropped my old friends who had vastly different parenting styles. We were never going to see eye to eye. You need to act, OP. Either change the way you parent, or change your friends.
(I would change the way you parent, but again, you have to choose how you want to live).[/quote]

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