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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Go into it knowing that nothing you do will change her comments.  Nothing.  If the kids are angels, if you moved next door it wouldn't matter.  She will find something to make you feel bad about.  People who are negative like this MUST always find a way you are falling short so the target is always moving.  This is still really hard for me with my own MIL.  I sometimes feel like I'm playing whack-a-mole with her complaints.  Once I've addressed one complaint, another unrelated one pops up.  So I chose to just DROP the hammer and walk away.  I am not responsible for her happiness.  I chose to be polite and I encourage her relationship with my child.  [b]Beyond that, I drop the rope and let her hang herself if she wants to.[/b]

I also bring books to read, go for walks alone or with the kids, and/or drink plenty of wine if I can.  Then I go to bed early, even if it's just to read or surf on my phone.

Remember, you are doing this to make your DH happy, NOT her.  Concentrate on that.  This trip is an investment in your marriage.  You are also modeling to your children how to gracefully handle difficult people.  They are learning from you, so think of how you'd want your kid's spouses to treat you (even if you were a pill) and DO THAT.  It's not easy.

Good luck! [/quote]

op here, i love this quote. it will be my mantra[/quote]

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