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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's never too late to set limits with inappropriate parents, especially if you have children who may model their example. Don't wait for your sister's wedding, and don't expect miracles.

Have a private conversation with your mother about her behavior socially and generally. State gently but firmly that you will not tolerate her rudeness and acting out around you any more. When she acts obnoxiously, you will walk away and not talk to her. Then do it. Follow through and see if she changes. She might not change. She in all probability may double down on bad behavior and get worse. At least, by backing off you'll get a break from her and she won't teach your kids (if any) to defy you this way.

Your sister needs to have a separate conversation with your mother, too, just in case she's so thick (likely) that she tells herself that only you are unhappy with you.

She needs to do that in a separate conversation as soon as possible, so that when your mother inevitably acts out (preferably at a non-wedding event), she can feel the consequences.

Honestly, if your mother is older, perhaps even a senior citizen, chances of change are very small, but it's always good to try.

It's good for your autonomy and future relationship, even if it doesn't work because you will have stood your ground.

Good luck.  [/quote]

sorry: that only you are unhappy with her; it's guaranteed that she'll be unhappy with you because she won't want to change[/quote]

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