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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Thanks for all of the help on this. My DH and I don't have sex very much anymore. I have gained weight and he is honestly not very good in bed. He is a great guy though.  He is an amazing dad, very kind, good sense of humor and smart.

I think I might bring it up just a little bit and see how he feels. I don't think he would give me a pass, but I'm not sure what to about these thoughts. I definitely think I am at least bi. The idea of this makes me sad, because I know my DH could be with someone who is more interested in him.[/quote]

OP please do not torment him with this until you have clearly determined how important it is to you to understand it and explore it. You cant bring something like this up "just a little bit". It could make him terribly insecure for no good reason if you decide its not really that important to you. Also where is HIS sex life in all of this? What about what he might want? A lot to consider here. Tread carefully. And try not to be too selfish- ask yourself if  you would bring up "just a little bit" wanting to sleep with another man? Probably not! Just because you are changing, to what extent and to what end is unclear, and the process does not have to be drag another human being through it. Do the hard inner work yourself and maybe in therapy. Then really ask yourself what you want out of the marriage, out of him as a partner. And he deserves to be asked what he wants too!

Good Luck.[/quote]

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