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OP,

I come from a family of introverts and married one, and none of us behave like you do! Actually I don't know one person out of my large acquaintance who behaves that way.
So please realize that your illness is far, far, out of the norm, and that is why it is misunderstood.

Either you want to change - you have your work cut out for you, because it will mean working with a therapist and getting exposed to what you fear most (that is the way phobias are treated).

Or you decide not to change, but have to accept that the majority of people think you're crazy/selfish, etc.[/quote]

OP:  People who are actually close to me like DH, my parents, friends are fine with who I am.  They understand my need to avoid large crowds or noisy gatherings.  It is the ILs who complain.[/quote]

Your immediate family tolerates your illness because they love you deeply, I understand that. I have a mother with a different illness but equally handicapping, and since she doesn't want to change, there is nothing I can do but accept her for who she is. Please know that it takes continuous adjustment for your family to do so!

For the ILs. Stop whining. Your spouse has probably explained your condition several times (and if he hasn't, he should). They refuse to understand or accept it. You refuse to change. Well, what can you do, OP? Ignore the comments. You and your DH should handle any direct attack launched against you by staying calm and reiterating that you cannot physically do what they want, so if they want to host you at one of their gatherings, they have to give you some space.

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