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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't say a word.  If she has the balls to straight up ask you for tuition money, I would remind her then that it was a one time float so the kids could finish out the year and you won't be paying future costs.  Let her scramble![/quote]

This is so passive-aggressive and unhealthy.  That is not how you treat family, even family that is making obnoxious assumptions about your willingness to pay for their kids' schools indefinitely.

Grown ups who are trying to do the right thing actually communicate. Someone else said it best: "So how is your search for a public school going?  Or have you and BIL found a way to pay yourselves for private school?  DH and I were glad we could help you out so the kids didn't have to transfer mid-year from their school, but given that we don't even send our own kids to private school, we know you must understand we can't pay anymore.  Since our kids go to public here, do you have any questions or is there any info I can help you with?"

It's immature and unwise to know people are hinting and maybe even assuming you're going to do something (even if the assumption is totally unreasonable) and not just nip it in the bud so everyone can move on.  THere are kids affected by this.  If their parents aren't good planners, why help the parents extend the poor planning by being complicit in not just asking about public schools?[/quote]

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