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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just got off the phone with a neighbor who was complaining about how busy she is because of the 4 or 5 birthday parties her non-special needs daughter was invited to over the next 2 weeks. Our daughters are the same age and at the same school. My daughter has ADHD, anxiety, and HFA and is struggling academically at school, is quirky and kind, and is rarely invited to birthday parties. Her daughter is bright and popular and doing fine. It's no secret that my daughter has special needs. I get that parents like to brag about their kids, but it really kills me when parents boast about how smart/popular/athletic their kids are to me, when they are aware that these are all areas of difficulties for my daughter. This same mom has talked about how well her daughter does in math.

Anyway, I was polite and got off the phone, but I alternately wanted to cry or reach through the phone and shake this woman. Was she oblivious to how she sounded? Was she trying to be cruel? Is she massively insecure? Am I just feeling sorry for myself and my daughter? Am I being too sensitive? Should I think about all the people who have it worse? I have another kid who doesn't have special needs and is doing quite well in a lot of areas, and I go out of my way not to talk about her abilities to anyone other than my husband and interested relatives.

Sorry, I really needed to vent. But what do you guys do? How do you handle it? Do you every say anything or do you just suck it up and act like everything's fine?[/quote]

You talk about your kids. She talks about her kids. What's she supposed to do? Lie?

You sound massively insecure and self-pitying. I have a kid with HFA. I am glad to hear about my friends' kids who are doing well. I root for them. They root for us.  They don't have to hide how well their kids are doing because I don't view parenting as a competition that I'm losing. [/quote]

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