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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I hope you can ignore all the posters here trying to analyze your reasons for not wanting your mom there. Whether it's the house stuff or not wanting her around because she and your dad bring the drama, you don't want them barging in when THEY want. That's your right. As for mom helping with your toddler, seriously, that is just more stress for you, if you and your mom don't get along.

Be glad you moved farther away from them, if they are this confrontational and nitpicky. You are not a bad person or bad daughter to determine who visits your home and when. It is not "cruel" to limit your contact AND your child's contact with your parents if they drain you and create conflict. It's just plain dramatic to use the term "cruel" here.

Go with "I'm sorry you feel that way" and be sure to note that their summer visit is just around the corner and say, "We're really looking forward to that summer visit, when all these electricians etc. will be gone." Be VERY grateful they plan to stay in a hotel while they're on that visit.

Take care, OP, or your parents will turn into the grandparents we read about on other threads, where the grandparents book flights without ever consulting with anyone and with zero regard for things like a child's school schedule or people's work schedules or anything else. That sort of thing is on DCUM all the time. Your mom sounds like she might go that route eventually. You and your husband shouldn't slam the door on her and your dad, but you do need to have boundaries that are clear. When they DO visit, be sure they get good time with your child, and plan a lot of things for them and your child to do, so they are not just "hanging out at home" and finding time to criticize the paint job. Occupy them with activities and places to go while they're there. You can all focus on the activity and watching your child have fun. [/quote]

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