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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That didn't happen in my case.  They did experience a drop in standard of living due to our divorce, because it's expensive to run two households.  But my ex, for all his faults, has never had a problem paying his fair share of kid stuff.  His new wife earns well herself and only wanted one child, so as his earning power has grown over time, things haven't been too bad even though there is another mouth to feed.

I do think it can happen, though.  Either the dad is just a deadbeat, or some people just get in over their heads financially without meaning to, and then something has to give.  Not trying to excuse this behavior, but I can see how it would happen.[/quote]

This.  My husband overpaid in child support for many years.  He knew he could take it to court and get it reduced (he continued the allimony amount and child support years after it was over).  She got greedy, took it to court and two of the older kids and the alimony was removed.  She was pissed to say the least.  She tried to come after my income since I paid for some plane tickets and other stuff (he didn't have the money).  She was refusing visitation and got more (though she never allowed it).  He paid every "extra" demanded but did cut the youngest off after he graduated high school due to no relationship and how he treated him (he also cut off the older two).  My husband was done with child support when we had ours and comfortably could afford ours.  He would have helped with college as his income went up and I was willing to help as my parents paid mine but they treated him so poorly he decided enough was enough.  It was her choice to divorce, not his.  (his ex has always been ok with us having children or at least never has given him a hard time and has been decent the past few years but now she wants help as only one kid treats her well and she isn't sure what to do - as if he can fix what she created).

No reason why a parent on either side cannot remarry and have more kids.  If parents were together, resources would be split they had more kids so I see it no differently.  For us, the only difference is if parents were still together my husband would not have gotten his education or earned what he is earning as she never supported education or his career. [/quote]

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