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"Family life"? What does that mean? You mean how happy men were with their families? Or how happy everyone was to be taken care of by someone who didn't have a choice because that was the only role that person had in society?

I can guarantee you I'm a whole lot happier now than I would have been living in 1915. Women couldn't even vote then. [/quote]

I guess if the term "family life" causes such confusion, then concerns that modern trends have eroded the family are not overblown.

[b]Also, this seems to be evidence that feminism does, in fact, encourage women to view the family as a tool of patriarchal oppression; not a life to be chosen by serious women with options. [/b][/quote]

I actually think that it is evidence that feminism does, in fact, encourage women to believe that they should be part of deciding how their family is structured and who is responsible for what in that family system. If a woman does not want to have children, and she is pressured into having children by her husband, that absolutely becomes "the family as a tool of patriarchal oppression." Many posters on this board are married women who established their own careers and had children only when they felt that they were professionally, personally and financially ready to do that. Then many of them (us) went back to our careers after our children were born. Many of them (us) also have stayed home with our children for various amounts of time. The problem is the process, not the outcome.

If the "family life" you're describing mandates that the first baby arrives approximately 9 months after the marriage, that the father is the one responsible for going to work and earning a paycheck while the mother stays home to raise the children and take care of the house, that "family life" is only NOT a tool of oppression if that is what everyone wants. If it was a joint decision. [/quote]

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