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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Both of my SDs do this. They get blood on their sheets and do not wash. They take off their underwear and leave the used pads attached. On multiple occasions I've had to fish a pad out of the washing machine or dryer. They leave wrappers on the floor - like right now there are probably 20 used wrappers on the floor in each room. I haven't said anything to either girl directly because their mom (and sometimes my husband) talk to them about it. Does anyone understand WHY this happens? I don't think they're embarrassed or ashamed (like the OP my SDs don't seem to have a problem talking about their period in front of their dad). It baffles me. In our case I've ruled out them being uninformed about hygiene and - honestly - it doesn't seem like they're being passive aggressive or aggressive aggressive, it doesn't seem like they're being defiant either. They keep it confined to their rooms (although one of them left a big blood stain on the couch which I was unable to get out - I just turned the cushion over and let it go). Does anyone have an idea what is going on? I don't have a good enough relationship with their mom (her choice not mine) to be able to talk about the girls. My husband says he's continuing to talk to them about it and so is their mom.
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Hi this is op. Thank you for posting this because it makes me feel like I am not the *only* one dealing with this in my home. I've also fished out used pads from laundry - still attached to underwear. Sometimes they will just be laying out in the bathroom which i have to walk through to get to the laundry room (just evidence of how close the washing machine is to the thing that needs to be washed. I can literally see it from where the underwear is!).

I am going to do what the other poster suggested and get a lidded trashcan for the room. And I did order the book. But I feel almost at a loss because [b]I don't think she cares. I don't know how to make her care.[/b] I would not want anyone looking at my used pad splayed out on the bathroom floor.[/quote]

She doesn't have to actually care.  You need to explicitly explain to her how to dispose of period-related items in a sanitary way.  You take it out of your panties, you wrap it in toilet paper, you wrap that in the new pad wrapper, and then you put it in the trash.  No exceptions.  Do not dispose of them for her.  Why would she do it if you are going to?  Have you taught her to sort laundry?  Checking pockets, checking panties, etc.  State that NO items other than clothing go in the wash.  No pads, no tissues, no coins, no pens, etc.[/quote]

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