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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
Re Mother's Day, I think you are overreacting. Your kids will be doing things at school for Mother's Day every year; there's nothing wrong with MIL encouraging them to make things to show you that you are special and appreciated, since this holiday is part of our culture and so are they.

Re her visiting without pre-approval, that's the battle to fight, right there. Maybe you are fixating on the Mother's Day thing and deflecting from the real issue?

This is not a religious holiday, but a cultural one that is very important in this country, like Thanksgiving. Your kids will want to honor you on this day, not just your MIL. Your indifference will make them feel different from their peers. Perhaps you should consider making more of an effort to include yourself and not just make it your MIL's day in the eyes of your children.[/quote]

That's just silly, PP. Mother's Day is not a "very important" cultural holiday in this country, certainly not nearly as important as Thanksgiving. Plenty of people don't celebrate MD. Celebrating a holiday you don't wish to because it makes it might make your children "feel different from their peers" is also silly.

OP, if your kids want to appreciate you with gifts on MD, then by all means be gracious and thankful, but if you don't feel it's important, it's likely they won't either. Your MIL does think it's important and while she was a little tone deaf to keep bringing it up and forcing gifts on your children to give you, cut her a break this time and next time MD rolls around, kindly tell her you don't celebrate MD but is delighted that she does and she is kind to think of you.[/quote]

Yes. Be gracious but no, you do not need to make this into a big deal in your family.

And to the pp, you shouldn't worry about children's perrs re: Mother's Day.[/quote]

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