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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh yes, me again, a third time. Apparently I have a lot of wisdom to share about this topic  :-)

DO message with/date men whose profiles might not necessarily be exactly what you are looking for. If they're a little shorter than your dream guy would be, but everything else checks out - go on the date. Their profile isn't the wittiest, but they seem kind, cute, and you have common interests - go on the date. Keep your list of non-negotiables short: things like differences on drug use, religion, children, polyamorous lifestyle are significant, but many 'preferences' are not - you might prefer a professional or academic, but don't necessarily turn down dates/not message someone who only has an undergrad degree, or is a fireman, cop, etc.

DO message men you are interested in, not just sit and wait for the men you like to message you. [/quote]

Completely agree. I was blowing my husband off when he first messaged me and we'd started talking, because he lived 2.5 hours away (I lived in a major metro area, so why would I have to go that far to date?), appeared kind of skinny in his pictures (not my type generally), and had his height listed as the same height as me (and we all know guys lie about their height, right?). He finally sort of called me out on it after we'd been talking and then I just stopped responding, and I liked that.

We met halfway between and went out. It was a good date, but no crazy sparks or anything. I didn't go home thinking "This could be the one!"

5 years later we're married, he is an AWESOME guy, and we live across the country (so who cares about the 2.5 hours distance anymore - it was tough but we figured it out). Oh, and he's an inch taller than he put in his online profile... what guy does that?! [/quote]

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