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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've told DS and DD when they were young what kind of traits to look out for in a life partner, and yes I think I have a right to look out for DS's best interests when we all know that strippers are usually involved in a lifestyle....anyway, I don't want to turn this thread into a debate about strippers.

Thanks for the replies anyway.[/quote]

OP, you have to figure out what your priorities are.

You can tell your children whatever you want about how to select romantic partners. You can make rules about when those romantic partners are allowed to have dinner in your home. But you have to accept that your kids are adults and they're going to have their own priorities too. Hopefully, you taught them well and their decisions will reflect your family's values, but if your child is involved with someone who you do not approve of, telling him that he can't bring her home - when he actually wants to do that - is only going to alienate him. It won't matter to him right now that you have his best interests in mind. It might matter later, if something goes wrong, but right now, all he will hear is that you do not approve of a woman that he cares about enough to WANT to introduce her to his family and that you will not allow her to break bread with your family.

Many strippers are involved in a lifestyle, and that is definitely something to be concerned about. However, that is certainly not universal and people are people. You don't know this woman or anything about her other than her job and the fact that your son likes her. People are multi-dimensional. I would hate to be exclusively defined by my boring awful desk job, since that is far from the most important facet of my personality. Maybe you should consider that your son chose this woman for a reason and try to see if you can figure out what that reason is before you are so quick to condemn her for her occupation and alienate your son in the process.[/quote]

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