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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You guys need to reach a compromise that includes each of you showing respect for the other's preferences. It's clear from your post that you don't feel like he respects yours, but it's also clear that you don't respect his. My recommendation would be to come up with a general framework for how weekends will run, and then plan out each weekend on Thursday or Friday night within that framework. So, for instance, plan out the obligations that aren't relaxing for anyone (shuttling kids to sports, trips to Target, etc.) and divide those fairly. Then carve out a few hours during the weekend when your husband can have relaxing alone time, and a few hours when he'll join you for some social activity. Any remaining time is for you guys to do your own thing -- he can hang out at home (maybe the kids stay with him), you do a social thing without him.

Also, look for opportunities to get social time during the week -- have lunch with a friend, go out for drinks with your girlfriends after work one day, etc. It might help take the pressure off the weekends to be your only downtime. Trade-off with your spouse would be that any evenings he covers the home front so you can go out gets him a little extra time on the weekend.[/quote]

This is good advice.  I'm an introvert married to an extrovert.  I don't complain about doing social stuff, and he doesn't insist on my attending every event with him (the flip side is that I am fine with him going to things without me).  He'll often meet a friend for coffee without me, or I might stop by at the end of the visit to say hi.  We often meet friends one-on-one, rather than in big groups or big parties.  But it works because he really gets that this is just how I'm wired, and that I need my down time to recharge, just as he needs his social time to be energized.   [/quote]

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