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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm probably the kind of aunt you would complain about.

I guess I didn't think ahead, And didn't gear my career, finances, and vacation time to the fact that my brother may spawn children.

I used to ship gifts, in fact very generous ones, until I got the impression that they weren't good enough. I used to ship via some big name companies like Amazon, because my SIL was a picky cow who would want something one week, but not the next, so I tried to accommodate by having convenient return policies. At first I shipped in cute packages, until they went without comment. Didn't receive a single thank you card or even separate phone call. Why would I spend an extra two hours and $50 of my time and money for no good reason?

When my SIL separated from bother and moved to my city (1100 mi apart), I offered babysitting services as often as I could. Of course, these were always last minute and never enough.  Work a 60 hour week. If I made special arrangements for 5pm, SIL would need 4. If I made 4 happen, she would drop off early at 3-330.  If I asked her to pick up niece (and she agreed) at 9am the following morning, she would show up at 11 or 1, thus killing my day, and overriding my own commitments. While I was happy to have niece and had a blast with her, I have my own life.

Before your rake everyone over the coals, please look at your own responses to these people. Remember that their niece and nephew are important to them, but NOT their responsibility. Shipping gifts is not a requirement. It's so much easier through Amazon, and it's the thought at all that counts. 
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