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You never know how this situation may change down the road. Once DD is old enough to reach out, she may. Her interests may end up being something that bring her closer to her DA and DU. I won't bother coming up with a bunch of examples when all I mean to say is that the future is unwritten.

I didn't build a relationship with my aunt until I was in late high school or early college. The relationship between my mother and her sister was strained. They never spoke, neither seemed to even care. I've been so lucky to have this aunt to rely on since my mother's death.

The couple I've chosen to care for my children in my Will aren't really involved in their lives at this point. Rare interactions go really well, just as you describe in your situations. They will do right by my children. They're good people. They just have other priorities at this point in their lives. "Should" they be more active participants? Uh, okay, sure. But that's not the case and it likely won't change any time soon. I still have every faith that they will rise to the occasion and raise my children well.

Leave room for possibility, OP. You seem quite dedicated to seeing this as a negative. You mentioned not having siblings of your own. Maybe this informs your expectations a bit too much? I have a lovely little brother. We don't have an exceptional amount of contact. We have a strong bond, although I don't imagine you'd see it that way. By your measure we wouldn't seem close. If you let go of your romantic ideals, you may find these relationships less lacking than you do at present.

It seems like your impressions have less to do with realities and more to do with your own notions about how siblings "should" behave.
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