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[quote=Anonymous]OP, have you thought about going with your wife to the therapist? Could help show your support.
Have you expressed your thoughts about your son's education--does your wife think that you will be mad if DS doesn't go to this private school? Not just do you think she would think that or not, but have the two of you had a conversation about it? Whose idea was it to send DS to the school in the first place? Did you ask MIL for the money or did she offer it up?
I'm asking a lot of questions about the school because it seems from your comments that your wife is hung up on it.
It's great that she's a high-achieving professional, but I think part of the reason for it is that she craves the attention from her mother, and still holds out hope that someday her mom might approve of her. This is the hardest thing to let go of when you've sought approval from somebody your whole life--you'll never be good enough in their eyes (even if you are a great, accomplished person in real life).

It shouldn't matter how much attention MIL shows DS. If she is narcissistic, it would be hard to believe she has no ulterior motives for the affection she shows. Or maybe she hates her daughter because she's not a man?

I agree with the PPs, you need to stand up for your wife if you can't do it for her. But you should tell her this ahead of time, so she doesn't try to stop you. She needs to let you do it, because if she tries to stop you, MIL will see this and know that your wife is "on her side" (AKA she's successfully brainwashed her).[/quote]

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